Rationality and Today's World; Part Un
Due to the broad nature of this topic, I will split them into parts, most likely covering other queries between this series. The rationality I would like to discuss today is in Relationships.
In many high school relationships, there are many landmines and tripwires waiting to blow the relationship to smithereens. This is due to the relative inexperience, immaturity, or expectations and ideals of both people. The initial question is how does this topic relate to Rationality. Rationality dictates what is logical as in "I am cold. The wind coming through the open window makes me cold. I do not want to be cold. I will close the window." That sort of simplified logic is basically rationality.
Now the question becomes, where do the booby traps start? I say they start from
the beginning. In the beginning both partners have different expectations. There are a few different possibilities. For the male there is "I want a long term relationship" or "I want a short term fling" and the same applies for women. But many women and some men, when desiring a long term relationship in high school, they say a few warning phrases "I want to be with you forever" or "Cindy And Bryce 4 eva" and call each other husband and wife in a 'cutsey' way. Although all this is kind of cute in a naive' sort of way, what it does is it has the opportunity to create problems. If the other person in the relationship hears this and doesnt feel the same way, they may begin to fear such a committment at such a young age, likewise if both people feel similarly, one may begin to smother the other, thus causing the other to regret the committment they have made.
High School breakups are equally a mess as the problems within the said relationships. Common reasons for it to occur are namely cheating (from fear of committment or desire to have 'flings'), smothering, and unrealistic expectations (Expecting that a couple should never fight or argue, for example) among other things.
The connection to rationality of course is, its unrational to enter a relationship and expect to be together forever. The expectation when entering should be "Let me learn about this person" it should develop into "Let us learn to love one another" and eventually "Let me live my
life with this person." Delving straight into a lifelong committment is a recipe for disaster, easing into it with gradual development and learning about the person is the simplest, most beautiful, and by far most rational way of doing it.
The barebones fact of the matter is, in High School and sometimes college, youths are still experiencing and learning how to do things. They learn what sort of things do and don't work in relationships, friendships or in life. So all of these mistakes they make in high school, it benefits them towards learning a more rational way of seeking dates. While some do get stunted in their maturity level and may live their entire life dating in the most irrational way, many wise up later and learn to love rationally.
Exeunt.
In many high school relationships, there are many landmines and tripwires waiting to blow the relationship to smithereens. This is due to the relative inexperience, immaturity, or expectations and ideals of both people. The initial question is how does this topic relate to Rationality. Rationality dictates what is logical as in "I am cold. The wind coming through the open window makes me cold. I do not want to be cold. I will close the window." That sort of simplified logic is basically rationality.
Now the question becomes, where do the booby traps start? I say they start from
the beginning. In the beginning both partners have different expectations. There are a few different possibilities. For the male there is "I want a long term relationship" or "I want a short term fling" and the same applies for women. But many women and some men, when desiring a long term relationship in high school, they say a few warning phrases "I want to be with you forever" or "Cindy And Bryce 4 eva" and call each other husband and wife in a 'cutsey' way. Although all this is kind of cute in a naive' sort of way, what it does is it has the opportunity to create problems. If the other person in the relationship hears this and doesnt feel the same way, they may begin to fear such a committment at such a young age, likewise if both people feel similarly, one may begin to smother the other, thus causing the other to regret the committment they have made.High School breakups are equally a mess as the problems within the said relationships. Common reasons for it to occur are namely cheating (from fear of committment or desire to have 'flings'), smothering, and unrealistic expectations (Expecting that a couple should never fight or argue, for example) among other things.
The connection to rationality of course is, its unrational to enter a relationship and expect to be together forever. The expectation when entering should be "Let me learn about this person" it should develop into "Let us learn to love one another" and eventually "Let me live my
life with this person." Delving straight into a lifelong committment is a recipe for disaster, easing into it with gradual development and learning about the person is the simplest, most beautiful, and by far most rational way of doing it.The barebones fact of the matter is, in High School and sometimes college, youths are still experiencing and learning how to do things. They learn what sort of things do and don't work in relationships, friendships or in life. So all of these mistakes they make in high school, it benefits them towards learning a more rational way of seeking dates. While some do get stunted in their maturity level and may live their entire life dating in the most irrational way, many wise up later and learn to love rationally.
Exeunt.
1 comment:
"if both people feel similarly, one may begin to smother the other, thus causing the other to regret the committment they have made."
Or like one of my friends did, she stays in the relationship knowing she can never be happy.
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